It's not personal. Asking a girl whether or not she likes guys "fapping" to her in real life, is not appropriate for chat. And continuing pestering her about it isn't appropriate either. It's against the rules, and it's something Ralle specifically does not want discussed, or mentioned on chat, or the site.
To quote from the rules:
"The posting of racist, nazi, hateful, threatening, discriminatory, sexist, sexually-orientated, obscene, vulgar, drugs, or otherwise offensive material is expressly forbidden. Violators will be punished most severely."
"This isn't that type of site. Don't talk about sexually orientated or any other obscene subject."