Worst feeling

[trolman]

Well hive, what do you think is the worst feeling of them all (psychological).

Personaly my feel is not beeing with the girl i want, which counts as no gf.

Semi-serious thread.

 

[Edhel-dur]

Loneliness indeed.

Although I think loneliness is a symptom of stagnation.

 

[trolman]

Nah last night all of my friends were at the door like "bro lets go out" and i was like fuck off im not in the mood.

I find it hard not to think about her.

 

[Razer!X]

I think the worst feeling is that you were preparing for something good that's about to happen and you only need one thing and when that moment happens that important thing is suddenly taken away from you by a stupid dome ass monkey. . . . . .

 

[trolman]

I think the worst feeling is that you were preparing for something good that's about to happen and you only need one thing and when that moment happens that important thing is suddenly taken away from you by a stupid dome ass monkey. . . . . .

a.k.a her boyfriend

 

[Razer!X]

Yep that's absolutely my point.

 

[Orcnet]

I too had reached a lot of issues with girls(omg why am I spreading shit in the international plane for this? coz yolo)

It is the worse feeling but to my experiences, it takes time, it won't be seconds, minutes, hours, days, or months or it can be years. But in that moment you'll soon realize she's not the only girl you'll meet(don't kill me for this)

Time will tell, with our mobility to adapt, realization, and endure they will be someone out there will definitely be your only one.

This is a note from the Hive Warchief

 

[trolman]

My problem is that i dont care about other women. This girl is the perfect combination between looks and personality. She left town 6 years ago (had feelings for her even then) and we just only met this month and hanged out for several hours a couple of days. I mean its not even about looks anymore, its not that she's ugly...whoa NO! When she puts on those black tights and that lowcut tanktop, I just lose it. But i aslo care about her personality. Oh and we'll probably never meet again even tough we live in the same apartment building. Theres a way out of the friendzone but im not even in it becasue im not even in it.

Time for some comic relief because this got too depressing, comic is pritty much the situation

 

[Razer!X]

Wow Orcnet, I never knew you were so deep.

 

[Edhel-dur]

So we're talking about girlz now?

I thought all religion threads were banned from OT.

 

[trolman]

Its a feels thread.

 

[Edhel-dur]

I took the leisure of reading your profile.

Seems like you had ample opportunities, not sure what you were expecting for... maybe for her to come into your arms just like that.

If you missed the train, it's time to move on. Yes it hurts, and it should remind you next time to try harder to not miss the train again. Furthermore, just because you met and chatted with someone doesn't mean you know them, or how your relationship with that person will go.

From what you've said thus far, she's on to you, and clearly said her intentions of wanting you as nothing more then a friend. Girls are like castles, you can't enter unless she surrenders herself to you. In other words, she isn't surrendering, so you can't enter, so the best thing is to move on. And stop being so sure about how good it would have been. I doubt you know her bad side.

 

[Razer!X]

Yep let dem feels flow through you. . . . . . Actually I have a feeling that the girl I like laso likes me. But I think I have a false idea. Note that I'm also a lonely person. Let dem feels flow through you again . . . . .

 

[trolman]

Well its not like that didnt really have any opertunities because she just reapered in my life a month ago and she already had a boyfriend.

I cant really get to the castle, so I cant beguin to seige it.

@chooey

go for it, tell her how you feel, gain courage and do it, you cant really lose if she says no but if she says yes, you will be very happy

 

[Edhel-dur]

Well its not like that didnt really have any opertunities because she just reapered in my life a month ago and she already had a boyfriend.

I cant really get to the castle, so I cant beguin to seige it.

@chooey

go for it, tell her how you feel, gain courage and do it, you cant really lose if she says no but if she says yes, you will be very happy

You had opportunities. It just turned out she had a boyfriend and wasn't interested.

 

[Razer!X]

Well everytime I'm lonely, my chest suddenly gives me a hard and burning sensation which makes me feel bad and makes me lock myself alone in my room. If you read my profile I'm good at choosing words which I use to speak for my daily issues in life and this gives me an advantage everytime I speak to her. But the problem is I don't have the courage to even look straight through her eyes. Let dem feels flow again.

 

[trolman]

Err not really six years was a loong time ago. She likes me and even said i was a cavalier, I never made my feelings clear because I havent spent enough time because i havent seiged enough for a sucsessful assult it would only make things awkward and maybe make her feel bad (which i dont want to happen). Cant really continue the seige because i have no excuse to see her.

edit

I was the same with another girl but like you i didnt have courage. When i did she was no longer intrested. You cant really lose.

 

[Razer!X]

Hope you turn out fine trolman because I'm still going through a lot of hard things.

 

[trolman]

Nope...my shitty job is starting next week (expect a thread about that) and i'll probably never see her again.

You should ask her out tough, you might have a chance.

 

[Razer!X]

I "might" have a chance but I'm not sure if it is above 50%. I'll go find a way to make her like me then.

 

[Edhel-dur]

Err not really six years was a loong time ago. She likes me and even said i was a cavalier, I never made my feelings clear because I havent spent enough time because i havent seiged enough for a sucsessful assult it would only make things awkward and maybe make her feel bad (which i dont want to happen). Cant really continue the seige because i have no excuse to see her.

Being the cavalier means being the nice guy, the nice guy never gets the girl. And when he does, it's because the girl decided to 'settle' for him. Trust me, you never want a girl who just decided to 'settle' for you.

In one month you had enough time to siege. The siege is now over, and the castle didn't surrender.

So there isn't 'what it could have been'. There couldn't have been anything, because if there could, there would. So the real situation and what could have been, is what actually is now. So make your decisions about what happens now, not what could have happened.

 

[trolman]

I know but it was a start.

Ergh not really we only talked a few times in that month. Im pritty sure she loves the guy which would require even a bigger seige.

Now? Now theres nothing, she's gone, I dont have an excuse to spend more time with her... but i dont want to deal with it.

If i could have continued the seige, I might have won.

I just have to live with this feeling, brb off to the booze shelf.

 

[Edhel-dur]

If i could have continued the seige, I might have won.

You must make the most of the time you are given. That's what matters. And that's how people end up happy.

 

[trolman]

I know, if she had staid in town or if i had more time to be with her, i might have ended up happy. But I guess i dont deserve it. Again i dont think i'll ever find anyone better, i want her...

related

 

[Edhel-dur]

Maybe she doesn't deserve you.

And no, the answer to lacking a gf isn't going gay.

 

[trolman]

I dont think so she is very nice and kind, and im not just saying it because a part of the blood from my brain is going into another organ. Never really was happy, just "meh" most of the time (no its not a first world problem thing), the thing is I just cant stand it no more, i dont really care about anything else, only shes on my mind.

I realise I've become the Angry Heart...

 

[Edhel-dur]

Kind and nice aren't the only important things in a relationship. Thing is, you don't know what you missed, if it was good or bad. You can also assume, but not know. How can you know?

Either way, do your ritual. Beat yourself up and the likes. Hope you realize it's cool to just step outside, breath some air, and realize you are alive, and all the wrong can be turned right.

 

[trolman]

Well thers alot more to her and I sincerly belive I would be really happy with her. Cant really be worse than the current situation.

Either way, do your ritual. Beat yourself up and the likes. Hope you realize it's cool to just step outside, breath some air, and realize you are alive, and all the wrong can be turned right.

 

[Edhel-dur]

If you truly believe that, go and run after her and see if you are right. If it's true what you say, you will end up together.

 

[Razer!X]

I think the statement for your situation right now is "How can I move on if I'm still in love with you?" and it could be found in the song The man who can't be moved by The Script or something like that.

 

[Nuclear]

Obviously the feeling that you get when you remember your mortality, and then start thinking about the inevitable death and end of consciousness.

 

[General Frank]

Obviously the feeling that you get when you remember your mortality, and then start thinking about the inevitable death and end of consciousness.

That's so deep. Seriously.
I am thinking about that myself a lot, but then I remember those who are not so lucky as we are...

 

[Razer!X]

Obviously the feeling that you get when you remember your mortality, and then start thinking about the inevitable death and end of consciousness.

Yeah I also have that feeling and makes me feel weird.

 

[trolman]

@ edhel

Belive me, if she was free and i had a chance to see her more, i would. But at this point Id just make her feel bad.

@ chooey

well that just made me sader, she doesent know what i feel because i didnt spend enough time till when it could work

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Best chance for my happiness would be if i could spend more time with her and actually telling her. But considering she's inlove with that douche and that i cant spend more time with her my happiness remains on a devine intervention... which I dont belive will happen. I've cant do anything but hope and dream, and that gentleman, is tfw no gf.

 

[Edhel-dur]

Obviously the feeling that you get when you remember your mortality, and then start thinking about the inevitable death and end of consciousness.

I think people who actually achieved great things in life were too busy with whatever they were doing to think about their own mortality, inevitable death and end of consciousness. Talking about DaVinci, Einstein, Michelangelo, Steve Jobs, etc.

Edit: @trolman - to be fair you complain about how life is, but I don't see you don't mention how much of a fight you put for her, and have done all that hard work and still came out empty handed.

 

[trolman]

Death? Cant wait.

to be fair you complain about how life is, but I don't you don't mention how much of a fight you put for her, and have done all that hard work and still came out empty handed.

I cant really fight. My best idea is to camp outside her home and bump into her on "accident" then get her skype or something so i can talk to her more... :S

 

[General Frank]

Death? Cant wait.



I cant really fight. My best idea is to camp outside her home and bump into her on "accident" then get her skype or something so i can talk to her more... :S

If she is causing you more trouble than heartwarmth then just drop her and stop it.

 

[trolman]

Talking with her last friday made me happier then i was for months. Its life thats giving me trouble, but I cant an hero.

 

[Edhel-dur]

I cant really fight.

If you haven't really fought for her, then you shouldn't really feel deep pain just because of how life is.

Life was like this before you were born, and it will continue like this after you will be dead.

Fight more battles, loose them all, then you can cry.

 

[Hakeem]

I think people who actually achieved great things in life were too busy with whatever they were doing to think about their own mortality, inevitable death and end of consciousness. Talking about DaVinci, Einstein, Michelangelo, Steve Jobs, etc.

Yes, then they go and die and leave us empty handed, or worse; unprepared to pick up where they left off.

Thinking about how I'm going to die has helped me a lot to think about how to structure things I set up while alive.















Then I realized I probably don't actually die here. (' -' )

 

[trolman]

I dont want other battles, I just want her. I know it sounds stupid, but I dont really care...

 

[Edhel-dur]

@hakeem - Those were people who looked at and studied life. Death is part of life, so of course at one point they would pose the same question of mortality and death. However I don't think they lingered on that trail of thought for too long, or that they felt deeply saddened.

@trolman - You can't have her (or anything for that matter) without battling.

 

[trolman]

Theres very little i can do.

 

[Hakeem]

Then do very little.

 

[trolman]

I have to find a way to talk to her more... no real clue how, without tipping her off.

 

[Edhel-dur]

@trolman - life is like a turn based strategy game really, you have limited moves, and you must make the moves that count. So think carefully and realize, which moves count to win the battle.

Edit: also realize how much resources and army you have.

 

[trolman]

I can fight very well but I cant the battlefield. Just have to meet her again soon and hopefuly get a succesful converstation from which i can steal her skype and then I might actualy have a chance for victory.

Still i have to rely on alot of variables and given how little time I have, I might make the move.

 

[Edhel-dur]

You know which are the moves you need.

 

[Hakeem]

If she's in a relationship already then you'll make trouble no matter what you do by advancing.

Personally, I'd just wait until her other relationship ends, as relationships often do, and enjoy her company as much as possible in the meantime.

That's what I mean by do very little.

 

[Edhel-dur]

Just to make it clear, my take on this is for you to do what you want to do. I am not aiming for you to either succeed or fail. I firmly believe that you should play the card you wish to play.

The only thing that I am actually saying, is that if something is broken, instead of bitching about it, just fix it. How you fix, how long it takes, these things you know. I'm only saying you should fix the problem.