Depressing

[Codric]

Tell me about how life can be depressing

 

[Pharaoh_]

It can't; it's us that perceive it that way. This is how we can explain the so-called "objective" perspective (there's no objective perspective in human thinking, if you ask me) and how one event can affect someone very much, when the same event would leave someone else emotionally idle.
It all depends on your personal boundaries and the way you've learned to deal with things -if you haven't, you will feel helpless, and by extension, this feeling will make you feel "depressed"-.

Depression is a clinical term, it should be avoided in everyday labeling of people's emotional states. There's also "melancholy"; prefer that one instead.

 

[Magtheridon96]

Live a happy life.
Find happiness, don't wait for it to come to you.
I found happiness when I left love and girls and focused on Math, Physics and Programming.
Do what you love and you will find happiness.
That even applies to love if you get the joke

 

[-Derp-]

Oh Pharoh_ you made me laugh.
Depressing is an adjective, not a philosophical discussion.


From experience, I've had a few hard times when running into legal issues.
The real Debbie Downer of them was one involving 'guilty by association'. Yeah.
I managed to squeeze by it though, as with the rest of them.

 

[Dr Super Good]

Having to create a Bluetooth system 8-10 hours a day with all this junk that is going on. Enough said.

 

[Kingz]

Studying 3 weeks 6 hours a day and failing an exam pretty much does it for me.

Apart from that... nothing.

 

[I3lackDeath]

Studying 3 weeks 6 hours a day and failing an exam pretty much does it for me.

Apart from that... nothing.

Ha, I know that feeling, except it's 4 weeks á 3 hours for me. And the best part is that you have to wait 4-6 weeks for the results. >_>

 

[PROXY]

Exercising or running is a great way to achieve happines and inner piece. You get into a stance you can't describe, especially when you do it outside at a nice weather.
You might try it, as for me, everytime I feel lonely, angry, sad, >> depressed <<, these help me a lot

 

[Nuclear]

Remembering your mortality.

 

[NightElf125]

Remembering your mortality.

Ah but people living in this day and age at a young age have a good chance of not having to face that; at least for quite a longer while. Life extension technologies are in deep development and estimates are anywhere from 20-30 years they will be ready; could be longer.

 

[Nuclear]

Ah but people living in this day and age at a young age have a good chance of not having to face that; at least for quite a longer while. Life extension technologies are in deep development and estimates are anywhere from 20-30 years they will be ready; could be longer.

I'm also building hopes on that, but after they're developed, it'll take another 30 years until general public can afford them.

 

[Arowanna]

Depression, melancholy or just mental instability - call it whatever you like. I use all of them and to be honest, I just care about the way I interpreted them...

Anyway, I really don't see the whole point of this thread yet, "Tell me about how life can be depressing"..? It all depends on what person you are and it varies greatly from person to person. I've never been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, but I do admittedly have a bad temper and I can go from gleeful ecstasy into gloomy melancholy in the matter of seconds. I can wake up one day and feel nothing but the need of slitting my wrists and jumping out a window (not that it ever will happen, I'm far too much of a coward to actually take action); in general, I just want to escape reality. But on the other hand, I can wake up the day after and totally forget that yesterday it felt like I went through Hell…

I can't fully explain my "mood swings". I can blame depression and what not, I might even be insane as far as I know, but in general I just come down to one thing; knowledge and my view upon the world.

The more I know of the world around me, the more it tends to hurt and with my slightly misanthropic and somewhat nihilistic view on everything I just tend to burrow my mind in melancholic thoughts about... Well, whatever it is that I think loudly about.

TL;DR
What I want to mention in the post... Depression is kinda hard to pin-point and discuss as it varies so much from person to person and how they perceive the world around them…

Edit

Remembering your mortality.

This is probably one of the most classic reasons why people fall into dementia, depression and etc. and is in my opinion a very legitimate reason. I don't personally have any great fear towards it, but I fully understand why some go mad over it.

Live a happy life.
Find happiness, don't wait for it to come to you.
I found happiness when I left love and girls and focused on Math, Physics and Programming.
Do what you love and you will find happiness.
That even applies to love if you get the joke

It's great when people can find happiness in everything they do and in general, be happy with what they have and their limits; but I'd just like mention that not everyone is capable of that... Don't tell me that they are weak-minded or anything like that (I agree that we are to some degree), but some people just can't accept reality, no matter how hard they try. Maybe some people are bound to fail, what do I know, but it does annoy me a bit when people think it's that easy for everyone... Some people are just distrubed from the start and just can't handle it. Of course, it would be great if everyone could, but it's not the reality of things... /rabble rabble rabble

 

[Crayons]

life becomes depressing when a person experiences some emotional stress and he loses his emotional diligence.

or if he has some mental illness that was produced by similar reasons.

the way I deal with my everyday depression is by playing games, but yeah, it depends on the person on what action he wants to use to counteract depression.

 

[takakenji]

Stop Being a BaBy

 

[Nuclear]

Stop Being a BaBy

... your signature fits perfectly with your posts.

 

[Reclamation]

Is there anyone here who actually suffers from major depression?

 

[LordDz]

Nope.

 

[Vengeancekael]

Is there anyone here who actually suffers from major depression?

Yes.

 

[Nuclear]

Is there anyone here who actually suffers from major depression?

Maybe.

 

[Direfury]

It all comes down to accepting the bad, before thinking about the good.

For instance, I know my worth, what little there is. I know my weaknesses, the problems I face, all the things that make me a terrible person, or a waste of time and space. However, that doesn't bother me, I know I'm filth, and it pushes me to improve.

You need willpower to deal with these things.
"I am NOT going to be proven right about this"

 

[Arowanna]

Is there anyone here who actually suffers from major depression?

I don't think I am, but it sure feels like I've been there; but I probably haven't, comparing to how drained others have been.

Brittany uploaded a rather interesting video on the subject a while ago:

Derp

Say what you want about it, but I think most of us have been there, in one way or the other. And that video made me think of Twisted Sisters epic “The Price”…

It all comes down to accepting the bad, before thinking about the good.

For instance, I know my worth, what little there is. I know my weaknesses, the problems I face, all the things that make me a terrible person, or a waste of time and space. However, that doesn't bother me, I know I'm filth, and it pushes me to improve.

You need willpower to deal with these things.
"I am NOT going to be proven right about this"

I mentioned it before, not everyone have that willpower or even "survival will" to give a shit about it; glad some have it though.

 

[FrIkY]

Well, look... whenever I feel depressed, I just... ask someone to press me, and it's all fine after that!










Bad joke FrIkY, leaving the stage!

 

[Skycraft]

This thread is depressing.
Whenever I'm sad I stop being sad and be awesome instead.

 

[Kingz]

Whenever I'm sad I stop being sad and be awesome instead.

True story.

 

[GhostThruster]

whenever I'm sad I stop being sad and I play Halo

 

[Karawasa]

I'd argue that there are some people who literally do have a chemical imbalance in their brain which causes depression. But most people who are depressed are simply weak of mind. Since there is no test for chemical imbalance...the line between the two is hard to distinguish.

 

[Nuclear]

I'd argue that there are some people who literally do have a chemical imbalance in their brain which causes depression. But most people who are depressed are simply weak of mind. Since there is no test for chemical imbalance...the line between the two is hard to distinguish.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evolutionary_approaches_to_depression

 

[Codric]

I am not depressed I just want to know how tou guys fell when you're depressed

 

[TheWhiteWolf]

There is no point in being sad.

Sorceress:
When you laugh, the whole worlds laughs with you.
When you cry, you cry alone.

This is actually her signature, and she is right.

When it's good, everyone will be with you.
When it's bad, only true friends stick around.

 

[GhostThruster]

@sorceress: old boy?

 

[Hemske]

This thread is depressing.
Whenever I'm sad I stop being sad and be awesome instead.

What this handsome guy just said.

It really is that simple, whenever I feel down I just slap myself mentally and get my shit together and it is all good.

 

[Ironside]

I'm depressed because I go to a computer school and still landed in one of the worst places for summer work.

 

[Kingz]

I'm depressed because I go to a computer school and still landed in one of the worst places for summer work.

Well if it's any consolation same thing happened to two of my very good friends, so i guess it happens.

Try to make the most of it, look on it on the bright side

 

[Ironside]

I am looking at it at from the bright side: survive for 5 more weeks and then never again.

 

[Yixx]

Why not get a permanent job? If only part-time. I do two studies, Mathemathics and Computer Science, take drivers lessons for both car and bike, have a job for, outside holidays, only one day in the week, and still have time to go to the bar with friends and have an awesome night of which I do not remember half of the stuff that happened after 2 AM

Furthermore, I have been there. It was my own fault, at least, the fact that I have been depressed for such a long time. I just could not get on with my life after 2,5 years of having a solid relationship, which ended abruptly. Now I don't know why I didnt slap myself in the face much earlier and started living life again. But even though I was depressed, there were things keeping my spirit up. Study and friends. (And alcohol)..

Yes, I have been there..

 

[Ironside]

As long as it's this job, I'm just trying to get it over with as soon as possible. I'm not going to take a permanent job that doesn't suit my study in any way.

 

[Karawasa]

Laugh, and the world laughs with you; weep, and you weep alone.

So, so true.

 

[Nuclear]

We're living the best age of modern civilizations (because not all humans are as lucky) yet. Most of us have shelter, a motorized vehicle, food and fresh water. And I don't know about you, but in my country it's pretty impossible to die for starvation, you'd have to go to a forest hiding or some official would force you to eat. Hell, they even want to give free shelters and food for gypsies. That being said, I am of course speaking from the perspective of a person living in a first world country, where all the significant wars have already been fought and famines been solved.

So no need to be depressed.

Edit: So I'm pointing out how humans before this era, for hundreds of thousands of years, died in horrible and painful ways and often violently before reaching even the age of ~30, which is considered a relatively young person today.

 

[takakenji]

I Have SOmething: Stop being a BAby and Suck it up There are people Dieing in Africa who are GEtting abused by Warlords and forced to make Huts from rhino dung So Get over it okay Stop being a weener There is no Such thing as Depression just U being a weener

 

[Codric]

I Have SOmething: Stop being a BAby and Suck it up There are people Dieing in Africa who are GEtting abused by Warlords and forced to make Huts from rhino dung So Get over it okay Stop being a weener There is no Such thing as Depression just U being a weener

okay I see that but the qeustion is what in hells name are you doing about it

 

[Arowanna]

@Codric, a tip, don't take takakenji to seriously; he's been trolling around for a good time now. But like most of them, he manages to shine light on something none the less; despite the sarcasm and trolling...

Anyway, yes, you could tell depressed people to clean up their act as most of them have it way better than people that are exposed to war, famine, starvation and etc. But I just want to point something out; I might have it better than these people, but that doesn't mean that my pain isn't real (Hell, I even feel offended to some degree when people say that I haven’t felt pain, because I have. Maybe not as extreme as others, but I sure have a perception of it…). I can't help it that I was born in a country that wasn't haunted by these horrors and if I were born in one of them, I'd most likely be one of the first to fall.

Just because others are suffering doesn't mean that I can't feel pain, even if my pain can be considered trivial compared to theirs. And with all honesty, you can only compare starvation, disease and etc. with depression if you've encountered both of them. As for now, my own perception is that depression is the worst kind of pain there is, and it is, for me at least. I haven't experienced anything else that hurts as bad as it, so there's nothing I personally can compare it to with honesty. But if I had experienced starvation, famine and war, things might have been different. And shit, war damage people in general...

Ugh... Sorry for the rabble, but all as for the TL;DR, I just wanted to point out that you can't really compare depression with war, famine and etc. as most of us haven't experienced both (I've no clue though, most war victims seems to be damaged in the long run anyway... So my guess is that those things create a constant depression if something isn't done about; a person can get stuck in it, so to speak... Or whatever...)

Edit
Shit, saying that is like telling a rich man that he doesn't have the right to feel pain just because he's rich. Is there any "logic" in that..?

Edit
Here's an interesting view on depression in general:
http://youtu.be/ndsB37KUAso

 

[-Derp-]

Since this inevitably devolved into a thread about depression, I might as well as throw in a few words.

First off, on what Arowanna touched on, depressed kiddles aren't affected by what their situation is compared to another's. They don't relate like that; ironically, if someone says their situation is worse than theirs they'll most often make an excuse or exaggerate their problem(s). I personally wouldn't describe depression as a 'pain', but more of a lack of emotion or influx of negative emotions. It's the persistence of this that gets to you, not the emotions itself. i.e. Everyone has at least once woken up and felt horrible, a depressed kiddle may get this for months straight. I could touch on mania and such, but I'd rather just stick with the stereotypical depression.

What gives this illness such a bad stereotype is the fact that it's an extremely common mental disorder and the 'emo' population. I can understand the cutting, I can understand the suicide attempts. I can't understand why you have to dress in all black, complain about it to everyone, and really just come across as a whiny punk to the general population. (This is where the 'being mentally strong' runs in) It's those that can put a smile on and push through the illness that are mentally there. Those that want it gone, and not embrace the useless attention whoring you can get from it.

Codric, if you need some sort of physical answer, i.e. what causes it, just ask.

 

[Nuclear]

@Codric, a tip, don't take takakenji to seriously; he's been trolling around for a good time now. But like most of them, he manages to shine light on something none the less; despite the sarcasm and trolling...

Anyway, yes, you could tell depressed people to clean up their act as most of them have it way better than people that are exposed to war, famine, starvation and etc. But I just want to point something out; I might have it better than these people, but that doesn't mean that my pain isn't real (Hell, I even feel offended to some degree when people say that I haven’t felt pain, because I have. Maybe not as extreme as others, but I sure have a perception of it…). I can't help it that I was born in a country that wasn't haunted by these horrors and if I were born in one of them, I'd most likely be one of the first to fall.

Just because others are suffering doesn't mean that I can't feel pain, even if my pain can be considered trivial compared to theirs. And with all honesty, you can only compare starvation, disease and etc. with depression if you've encountered both of them. As for now, my own perception is that depression is the worst kind of pain there is, and it is, for me at least. I haven't experienced anything else that hurts as bad as it, so there's nothing I personally can compare it to with honesty. But if I had experienced starvation, famine and war, things might have been different. And shit, war damage people in general...

Ugh... Sorry for the rabble, but all as for the TL;DR, I just wanted to point out that you can't really compare depression with war, famine and etc. as most of us haven't experienced both (I've no clue though, most war victims seems to be damaged in the long run anyway... So my guess is that those things create a constant depression if something isn't done about; a person can get stuck in it, so to speak... Or whatever...)

Edit
Shit, saying that is like telling a rich man that he doesn't have the right to feel pain just because he's rich. Is there any "logic" in that..?

Edit
Here's an interesting view on depression in general:
http://youtu.be/ndsB37KUAso

I presume you are responding to me.

I didn't mean to belittle the mental pain of those who have wealth, rather pointing out that things could be worse. A person who suffers from major depression needs a proper medical help. I compared depression with war and famine, since they cause horrible mental suffering, for example in war it's possible that someone you or someone you know will die, and in famine your family's survival is a constant concern.

PS. Is it really fair that there is an approved troll who can post shit on threads without anyone complaining?

 

[takakenji]

@Codric, a tip, don't take takakenji to seriously; he's been trolling around for a good time now. But like most of them, he manages to shine light on something none the less; despite the sarcasm and trolling...

My Words hold Wisdom it is Only the Perspective uSee them in which Will determine ur opinion

 

[OrochiKira537]

Well, if you don't have a mom and dad, you don't have a home, don't have money, don't have a spouse, don't have a dog, and don't have balls to face these problems. That is how you get depressed if your life is like this.

 

[Leeroy]

Your girlfriend cheating on you. With your best friend.

I've never really fell into depression, but this one almost got me there.
The OP asked about what you feel when you're in depression - you feel like you're useless.
What you have done in your past becomes either wrong or the cause that led you to your current state.
You start to blame yourself endlessly or someone else, in an effort to justify your current condition.
The more you think about what led you to that situation, the worse it gets.
It's like a spiraling descent into something that just crushes your very being. Maybe it is a lucid descent: you do realize you're just harming yourself by acting that way, but you just can't stop because you have no alternatives.

If you're strong and mentally capable of handling such a thing, you will eventually get it out of yourself...but I think you will always bear a scar after such experiences.

That is how I felt for a month after this relationship.

 

[Nuclear]

Your girlfriend cheating on you. With your best friend.

I've never really fell into depression, but this one almost got me there.
The OP asked about what you feel when you're in depression - you feel like you're useless.
What you have done in your past becomes either wrong or the cause that led you to your current state.
You start to blame yourself endlessly or someone else, in an effort to justify your current condition.
The more you think about what led you to that situation, the worse it gets.
It's like a spiraling descent into something that just crushes your very being. Maybe it is a lucid descent: you do realize you're just harming yourself by acting that way, but you just can't stop because you have no alternatives.

If you're strong and mentally capable of handling such a thing, you will eventually get it out of yourself...but I think you will always bear a scar after such experiences.

That is how I felt for a month after this relationship.

Sounds horrible, good that you survived. I can't even imagine a situation like that, a trusted partner and a great friend lost at the same time.

 

[Leeroy]

Sounds horrible, good that you survived. I can't even imagine a situation like that, a trusted partner and a great friend lost at the same time.

It's those typical film scenes that you look at afar in real life and tell to yourself "Ha, sucker! I can't bet he trusted his friend to this point"
And then, boom. You wake up in bed and you're that guy! Hehe.

 

[Direfury]

Try being a toy to your girlfriend, where she's playing mindgames with you the entire time. Or worse, the part where she fakes her own death because she's bored with you.

Or worse still, after a couple of weeks thinking someone you loved is dead, she shows back up in public and basically announces to you that you were close to nothing to her.


Cheating and failed relationships happen, and they're easy to get past, but that kind of trauma changes you. It turned me into an asshole, afterall.

 

[Hemske]

@Verm

I usually just tell people to snap out of it and move on. But man that's harsh.