Ok Doodi, I think that you should stay. Why? Because this is stupid. Why would you leave because some people said bad things to you? If you feel terribly offensed or feel that you are not treated fair, tell this guy. If he doesn't listen to you, contact a mod and he will decide.
Oh, and we all know who this guy is: Rui. Don't be afraid of telling names! If you trully plan to leave this site, do you even care anymore about what will happen you? But I'm telling you, you've done nothing terribly wrong. Ok, maybe a little spam here and there, but that's not a reason for you to leave.
You are letting other people choose your faith and this isn't good. You expect other people to take decisions for you? WHY? You can't always rely on others. Same goes with the name hiding. What are you afraid of? To ruin the guy's reputation? You even care about him?
And I don't think I was harsh in that forum, telling you about the spamming stuff. I never said you are a SPAMMER, I just said that some of your posts tend to be spamming, but that doesn't mean that you are doing something wrong... for now. I know it's your first forum, and it's great. You don't have to leave just because of that, just because a mod told you to be careful at this spamming stuff.
Now, if I would've said something like: "You fucking asshole! Stop this spamming or I'll warn your gay butt!" Oops, maybe this was a little bit too aggressive. Mods would never do that. But anyway, you get the point. You didn't do something extremely bad to leave.
I already posted to Rui and yes, I will have a discussion with him. He treated you unfairly and that's not good. If he doesn't stop it, he may be in trouble. Oh, and we don't hate new guys. We were all new for god sake, and look how well some of us got. Don't give up so easily.
And I mean it, we mods are here to help you. If you are having any problems with someone, you told that someone to stop it but he doesn't, announce the mods (preferrably PM an active moderator, Super Mod) and they will do their best to judge the situation. We are not here only to ban and warn and impose rules. We are here to ensure that people like the site and that they are not treated unfairly by others. Discrimination is something most of us hate, especially when it's pointed at us.
Conclusion, read my post, and think twice (or three, four, five or more times) before leaving this site. I for one don't know why you should. So I vote for "No!".
~Daelin