How to stop complaining without being a cheesy optimist?

[Bribe]

I am not an optimist or a pessimist or a realist. I go where the wind takes me. I am a complainaholic right now and I can't snap out of it. It pisses off the wife and most if not all of the coworkers so I would say I'm doing something wrong here.

My usual saying is "it could be worse" but at this point this image sinks in pretty badly to the point where /it couldn't be much worse/.

My company owes me 7000 euros and they have no intention of giving it to me, and my wife won't support me in fighting for my rights. I am living in Germany, don't speak the language and pretty much hate everything most of the time.

I don't want to be a cheesy optimist nor act like one, but I would like to know if anyone has some advice how I can get my mind out of the gutter here.

 

[Magtheridon96]

I recently learned that the best way to 'get your mind of the gutter' is to do what you enjoy best.

I'm guessing you enjoy Wc3 modding just as much as I do

 

[leet.firefox]

I hate the "it could be worse' mentality. It can always be worse, there's no point on focusing how your situation could be more negative. It's wasted energy. You should try SNORTING COCAINE.

 

[fladdermasken]

... wait, really? Your colleagues don't like you bitching about inconsequential shit?

I thought that came with the package like those perky little dehumidifying plastic balls you get with a new pair of shoes.

 

[HFR]

It could be worse, yes. But it also could be better.

 

[Gilles]

Prayer.

 

[Crazed_seal2]

Sue them.

 

[Bribe]

Prayer is the cheesiest possible thing in the world. I think HFR hit the nail on the head with this one. Thanks for the good advice.

As for suing them, it may come to that. But if I do I will demand additional amount from what they owe me, and that additional amount would be to pay for the lawyer.

 

[-Peper-]

'It also could be better' made you almost an optimist, btw.
The best thing to do is suing them, lol. It's 7000 euros and it's so many.

 

[Bribe]

"It could be better" is not as cheesy sounding as "look on the bright side", "it will be fine", "pray to God".

Reminds me of the quote of a cancer survivor "I prayed to God and he saved me" and then 90% of the other people who had the cancer died, and he just happened to have the 10% survival rate. Religion is a farce.

 

[Joe-black-5]

Let's not turn this into a Religion bashing thread.

I didn't want to get involved but here goes:
"It pisses off the wife"
results in:
"my wife won't support me"
You know the problem now, you need to fix it

"I am a complainaholic right now and I can't snap out of it"
you can't but you will have to, even if you wont like doing so.
Those 2 problems have the first priority.

Now for the other 2 problems:
Money: Don't make a move until you fix the first 2 problems, Money is not a priority
Job: Quit. the pay is good? it's costing you more than you are getting (not money wise)
having a job that you like which pays less is better than having a job that you hate which pays more.

Sorry to inform you but there is no easy way out or a shortcut.
There is no "it could be better" or "it could be worst" there is a "I will make it better"
Good luck.

 

[Magtheridon96]

having a job that you like which pays less is better than having a job that you hate which pays more.

Silly Joe

 

[HFR]

"It could be better" is not as cheesy sounding as "look on the bright side", "it will be fine", "pray to God".

Reminds me of the quote of a cancer survivor "I prayed to God and he saved me" and then 90% of the other people who had the cancer died, and he just happened to have the 10% survival rate. Religion is a farce.

I'll just come now and say that while my point still stands and, as a catholic, I still consider praying to be a legit course of action, because it may or may not work based on our faith.