Can marriage counseling help save a marriage?

[dreambeliever]

Can marriage counseling help save a marriage? I'm having trouble with my wife and I'm not sure where to start. The issues have been going on for a while, we would get into arguments and she would yell and scream and tell me things. I called a counselor to try and work through some of the issues but I feel like she never took it seriously. What should I do?

 

[Zombie]

Well, asking this on a Warcraft III modding site, where most of us have only seen women in draenei hentai is kinda weird, but I'm rooting for you, man.

 

[MasterBlaster]

Don't expect miracles.

Marriage counselor might help you understand each other better, uncover underlying issues between the two of you and suggest some insight and solutions to your problems, but at the end of the day, even the best counselor won't fix your marriage for you. It's you and your wife who have to put in the hard work to save your relationship. In order to do so, both sides have to be able to accept that they are making errors and be willing to work on eliminating them.

If your wife doesn't treat the issue seriously or see the problem, quite frankly - there is nothing you can do.

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In other words - yes, if both sides want to save their marriage, counselling can potentially be very helpful, but if one side is not interested in working out the issues, counselor is very unlikely to help.

 

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[dreambeliever]

Don't expect miracles.

Marriage counselor might help you understand each other better, uncover underlying issues between the two of you and suggest some insight and solutions to your problems, but at the end of the day, even the best counselor won't fix your marriage for you. It's you and your wife who have to put in the hard work to save your relationship. In order to do so, both sides have to be able to accept that they are making errors and be willing to work on eliminating them.

If your wife doesn't treat the issue seriously or see the problem, quite frankly - there is nothing you can do.

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In other words - yes, if both sides want to save their marriage, counselling can potentially be very helpful, but if one side is not interested in working out the issues, counselor is very unlikely to help.

Thank you for your advice, will try to ask my wife about counselling

 

[dreambeliever]

Don't expect miracles.

Marriage counselor might help you understand each other better, uncover underlying issues between the two of you and suggest some insight and solutions to your problems, but at the end of the day, even the best counselor won't fix your marriage for you. It's you and your wife who have to put in the hard work to save your relationship. In order to do so, both sides have to be able to accept that they are making errors and be willing to work on eliminating them.

If your wife doesn't treat the issue seriously or see the problem, quite frankly - there is nothing you can do.

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In other words - yes, if both sides want to save their marriage, counselling can potentially be very helpful, but if one side is not interested in working out the issues, counselor is very unlikely to help.

We want to try online counseling from Depression. Causes, Tips & Advice For The Disorder | BetterHelp because of privacy. Do you think it's a good choice?

 

[MasterBlaster]

Depression is a psychiatric disorder, i.e. a disease that needs to be treated.

If any of you feel like you suffer from depression, I'd recommend going to a psychiatrist or psychologist first as either one of these will direct you to the other if needed (i.e. if he notices symptoms of depression). The point of this is to get a proper professional advice on your health.

I can't say for sure about psychologists, but psychiatrists are doctors and thus they are bound by patient-doctor confidentiality, thus whatever you say to a psychiatrist should remain a secret and there's no reason to worry about privacy here.

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At any rate, from what you've said earlier, I do not see any reason to suspect depression as a cause of your marital issues, though - obviously - if you're worried about it and especially if you're suffering from symptoms like feeling hopeless and sad most of the time, self loathing, lack of energy or constant fatigue, etc. you should go see a doctor.

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As for counselling, in general I think your issues belong to the couples counselling category and you should look for a specialist in that field.
Personally, I'm not a huge fan of online counselling and I'd strongly recommend therapy that that is conducted in person.

 

[Zombie]

I'm not sure if this is a serious question or a clever advertising stunt.

 

[dreambeliever]

I'm not sure if this is a serious question or a clever advertising stunt.

not really. I got addicted to playing games and perhaps that's where she gets those range.

 

[MasterBlaster]

Gaming addiction is also something that a psychiatrist or a psychologist could help you with.

Fun fact, gaming addiction has been recently reckognized as a psychiatric condition in June 2018 by the WHO.

 

[dreambeliever]

Depression is a psychiatric disorder, i.e. a disease that needs to be treated.

If any of you feel like you suffer from depression, I'd recommend going to a psychiatrist or psychologist first as either one of these will direct you to the other if needed (i.e. if he notices symptoms of depression). The point of this is to get a proper professional advice on your health.

I can't say for sure about psychologists, but psychiatrists are doctors and thus they are bound by patient-doctor confidentiality, thus whatever you say to a psychiatrist should remain a secret and there's no reason to worry about privacy here.

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At any rate, from what you've said earlier, I do not see any reason to suspect depression as a cause of your marital issues, though - obviously - if you're worried about it and especially if you're suffering from symptoms like feeling hopeless and sad most of the time, self loathing, lack of energy or constant fatigue, etc. you should go see a doctor.

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As for counselling, in general I think your issues belong to the couples counselling category and you should look for a specialist in that field.
Personally, I'm not a huge fan of online counselling and I'd strongly recommend therapy that that is conducted in person.

Will keep your advice in mind, I am also thinking of one on one therapy.

 

[Zombie]

Will keep your advice in mind, I am also thinking of one on one therapy.

What does your roleplaying girlfriend think? Did you ask her whether she thinks relationship counseling can save the marriage with your wife? Maybe she has some good ideas.

 

[Rem]

Often times those marriage counseling practices are a scam, try your best to just talk it out with your spouse, remember compromise is key in any relationship

 

[Lord Aiden]

Rem, I 100% agree