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Hm, for the first and second you could delete a set of vertices with similar position then stretch the other vertices to cover up for the loss. By lowering the particle count you take out some emission rate. To fade out, you'd have to set the alpha so that it decrements per segment (1-3). It also has to do with the 'Time'.